Love porn but hate....

topic posted Sun, April 3, 2005 - 5:48 PM by  Veronica
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Hello. New to the tribe....
I'm 24 and untill recently.. was ashamed of my porn addiction. I loved it! I didnt really understand what I loved about.. just that it made me hot and bothered.. and I loved to masturbate to it. (online porn)
I looked at pictures... and would find the occastional movie. I loved those. Now that I have my own computer and share my own home with my boyfriend.... I can look as much as I want. This is often. Sometimes... 3-4 times a day.
Recently.. I came clean. I've never told anyone... but I told my boyfriend everything. He ofcourse was thrilled beyond belief.. because he too loves porn.
Here is the thing.
I get jealous when he does it. I know I look at porn more then he does... and I love looking at it with him... but I get so jealous.. when he looks without me.. or... jerks off.... when I'm in the shower.
It makes me feel like.. I'm not good enough.. for him. Why jerk off when he can have me?
Is this normal?
Its so bad.. that I hate leaving him alone with the computer.. because I think its all he is going to do. I always check the files and history. Everytime I'm not around he looks!

The other issue.. I have.. is that I'm not sure what it is about porn. Am I bi? I find that I love looking at the girls more then the guys in the movies I watch.

Alot of stuff for an into...
I'd love to hear any advice... or input.. thanks

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Veronica
Maryland
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  • Re: Love porn but hate....

    Wed, April 6, 2005 - 6:30 PM
    hi..
    my humble opinion...
    you r rad for admiting your reality to the one closest to you...(i've been too shy about admiting it)...think about when you get yourself off....it's nice beacuse you are concerned withyour own pleasure and it's about you...a little self love...jealousy can be draning..i'm sure he digs you! maybe the pressure of getting you off as well can be overwhelming for him, and maybe time constraints,men as we know can be very quick, and he enjois a private break....i assure you, his jerking off is nowhere near how incredible it is to fool around with you....trust , you are a fox in the flesh! so...also as far as what you like...nah, what turns you on is not nessacarly a determinate of your sexuality...the world of porn is based in fantasy, which is exciting, the female form, which is familier to you, shows that you have lot's excellent self esteem and are most engaged by *tits and ass*. which is great =)...not that you would acutally like to be with girls...although if you wanted to,maybe u should suggest exploring that aspect, i'm sure your boy would be stoked...be sure to check in with him and your self, to realize that you are both real sexual humans and the the fantasy of graphic images doesent overwhelm both of your senses and depending on how you interact emotionaly, share that you appreceate reassurance (hopefully not in an insecure way) that he appreceates your hotness and being with you......sexuality should be fun and interactive! maybe,next time you get out of the shower driping wet and "bust" him...give him a playful spanking or somthing...and take over....=)
    hope this helps a little...i've had some similar expirences...=) s*
  • Re: Love porn but hate....

    Mon, April 11, 2005 - 1:47 PM
    LOL I feel the same way, girl! i too never told anyone about how much porn i watch or how many times a day i get off to it (yes, 3 or 4 times some days)....till i told my boyfreind, who loves it also.

    we only watched porn together once. i don;t really like watching it with him. i guess because the girls are skinnier than me, and i feel like he must think they are hotter than me because of that. though he tells me he loves my curves and thinks im beautiful, etc., etc., i still cannot get over my own insecurities. i dont want to watch him watching naked skinny chicks. one time my a group of us were out and my freind wanted to go into this strip club <girls were let in for free> and i HATED watching my boyfreind look at these skinny chicks with fake tits, all athletic and gymnast like. now i have been to strip clubs with freinds without my boyfreind before and had an awesome time. but with him there i was terribly uncomfortable and actually went out and bought diet pills later that week. pathetic, i know.

    i also get jealous when he looks at porn too. hahaha i check his history also, to see what he was getting off to. i would be MORTIFIED if he did this to me, because the stuff i am watching is soooo much more nasty and hardcore than what he watches. i am always amazed at how tame the stuff he watches is. i don't know why i want to see what he is watching, i guess just out of curiousity. sometimes ill suprise him, like if i see he's been watching a lot of anal sex videos one day, i might suggest we have anal sex the next day.

    i also enjoy looking at the girls more than the boys. this doesnt neccisarily mena that you are bi. girls are just more beautiful to look at sometimes than men. also, if they are enjoying themselves, it is fun to imagine yourself reiceiving that same kind of pleasure that they are. maybe you are just relating to them bc you are a woman also. but if you do think you are bi, and want to experiment, go ahead and do it. theres nothing wrong with experimenting and seeing what you like. i consider myself to be heterosexual, but for a period in my life i slept with a few women and even took part in a threesome and foursome. but the girls just didnt turn me on the way a man with broad shoulders, body hair, and a nice big cock can.

    anyway, congrats to you for at least being able to be honest with your boyfreind about how you like porn, and for being able to watch it with him. my boyfreind always wants me to watch it with him, but it just doesnt really turn me on because i am thinking about how he might think those girls are hotter.
    did you ever have those insecurities when watching porn with your boyfreind?

    i dontknow if this was helpful at all, but at least now you know you are not the only one in this situation.

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